Space and time for struggle
KingsMen was a great way for me to feel more free inside. The physical challenges, together with other men.. it all helped me to really work on my own struggles. One of the things that really helped me was the question for action within 72 hours of Quest 1. I decided to do two things.
First, I told my girlfriend everything about my past. The good, the dark, I just came clean. I was completely honest, even though I knew it could be too much for her. My reasoning was… I’ll do my best and God’ll do the restThat really happened… she is now my wife! I did one step, but God did a thousand more for me.
The second thing I did was asking my dad to bless me and telling him that I love him despite everything that happenned in the pase. I didn’t see him for 22 years after we fled, we reconciled in 2018 after many years of inside work for forgiveness But even after 2018, I still had anger against him, I felt I had to choose forgivness again and again. I went see him after KM retreat, I told him I loved him, askef for his forgiveness and blessing. It really changed something in my heart. It changed the way I saw my father. And that, for me, is the beauty of KingsMen, it gave me time and space to see where my struggles are, to reflect on who I am and what I can do differently.
Your own weakness as a strength
I fought a very different battle when I did my second Quest. I always compare myself with others and came to the conclusion I wasn’t as physically strong as them, but weak and always reflecting on myself and what I did. Until one of the Kingsmen during the Quest said: ‘You don’t need to be sporty or strong, you have more strength than all of us. You can handle this, because you have a strength to be vulnerable in front of others. We’re learning from you.’
So… I saw this as a weakness of myself, but it turned out to be one of my strongest sides, something I can really use for my life.’ Rami sighs as we rounf off our conversation. ‘I will always climb mountains, especially together with other men. It’s simple, direct and a great way to fight the fight within myself.’
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